So today I just went to see the movie something borrowed. It was a movie filled with pressuring signals. From the start it showed the glory of life. Happiness, alcohol and sex all intertwined like some euphoric drug. Why is this our ideal? The plot simply got more convoluted as the characters endured the cheating of lovers and hiding it from those closest to them. It seemed like everyone in the movie was scared. Scared to hurt those they care about, scared to share their true feelings, scared to do what they really wanted.
We are all cowards in this way. We are too afraid of others and the what they might think of who we are or what we desire. I am guilty of this as I sat through the sleaze of this movie too scared to walk away from a movie that contradicted everything that I believe in and all that I stand for. What was I afraid of? Part of it was that those around me seemed to be entertained or intrigued but I think that the issue goes deeper. I wanted to know what was going to happen in this tangled mess. I think that this my yearning to know how it ends is what makes chick-flicks so popular. I think that it is because the longing in our hearts is to be loved and we enjoy seeing that "perfect relationship" portrayed for others. It is why we idolize those in the limelight. The truth is we are all empty and no relationship with another person is going to fill that need.
The ending of this movie was so un-redeeming. There was no happy ending, outside of the two main characters ending their tryst and bringing it to the open separating friendships and spurning those around them who cared most. It showed the friend who really cared about the girl, the guy who really loved her getting pushed aside for her newfound knight in shining armor. Women don't want a good guy. They want someone who captivates them regardless of the motives.
What is it about relationships that are so complicated. It is obvious to everyone around us what is going on and yet we play games with the hearts of others. We say things we don't mean, and don't act upon the things that we truly feel in our hearts. This shame or fear stems from our beginnings as humans when Adam and Eve hid from God in their nakedness. This innate fear lingers in every aspect of our lives. What can we do to rid ourselves of this and achieve the plans that God has for us?
